#10 - Better than Chocolate

I should admit that I saw this movie a while ago, and wasn't very impressed. I couldn't bring myself to watch it again. No, it wasn't that terrible, but it also wasn't memorable enough for me to be okay with losing a couple hours of my day watching it.

But I will give it credit for being one of the first movies to introduce me to a whole new level of lesbian subculture. How do you ask? Well, this movie was made for lesbians. No duh right? I mean that this is indeed a lesbian movie. There are plenty of movies that would work regardless of the sex of the characters. This isn't one of those movies. The situations that happen in the movie only happen as a result of the characters being lesbian. Don't get me wrong - this isn't necessarily a bad thing. However, if you're the type of person who prefers movies where lesbian-ism isn't the main theme, then this isn't the movie for you.

This movie also isn't for you if you don't like overtly graphic/sexual material. I had a major problem with how sexual the movie was. While I don't mind sex scenes, hell a lot of people can attest to that, but I like them to be done tastefully. There is nothing tasteful about this movie. It's crude and low brow. The sex scenes are completely attractive, but they weren't erotic. The characters didn't have any real chemistry. It was all forced.

The plot in itself was a bit silly, but I could live with the plot. Wiki does a great job at summarizing the movie:

Maggie (Karyn Dwyer) has recently moved out on her own, and has started a relationship with another woman, Kim (Christina Cox). However, Maggie's mother Lila (Wendy Crewson) and brother, who are forced to move into her tiny loft sublet with her, are unaware that she is a lesbian. Maggie's freedom is compromised, and she believes she must keep her blossoming affair a secret. However, the clandestine romance introduces Maggie's family to a host of new experiences, many of which are "better than chocolate."

Yes, plot alone, this movie didn't have a lot potential, but it also could have had some really great scenes. But, the bad acting and editing makes sure that this doesn't happen. Better than Chocolate does get some laughs out of you, but they come too far and few in between the rest of the movie.

This movie felt like it was a big dream from a young lesbian hitting puberty. It was raw and gritty, and did pack a few obvious laughs. It's a decent movie and has a lot of references to lesbian culture and stereotypes (it was here where I first heard the u-haul joke). Like I said before, I wouldn't see this movie more than once, but it's a couple hours well spent on a rainy afternoon.

#17 - Chasing Amy

Oh Chasing Amy. No one should be chasing anything in this movie. It's so bad. It's difficult to get through the entire movie. I had to actually take a couple breaks because I could not handle the terrible plot and subpar acting. I'm really surprised at it's popularity and critical acclaim. Because honestly, I really don't see it as anything good. A friend of mine pointed out that for its genre its a good movie. And I guess in that regard, yes it's a good stoner movie. But if you are looking at it from a critical perspective, I fail to see how it's any good.

Plot

Holden and Banky are comic book writers that meet Alyssa at a comic book convention. Holden falls for Alyssa but soon finds out that she's a lesbian. Regardless of this, he continues to fall for her, hangs out with her, and eventually confesses his feelings for her. Alyssa becomes angry at him for putting her in this unfair situation, which leads one to believe that she too had developed feelings for him. Nonetheless, they eventually starts too date. But of course, things aren't going to go picture perfect. Alyssa has to deal with the fact that she self identified as lesbian but now was dating a man. Holden had to deal with the fact that he was dating a self-identified lesbian, and had to get over his insecurities. Alyssa had gotten around, and he had to struggle with growing up and being okay with that. Banky was there as Holden's foil and distrusted Alyssa. All these things eventually add up and Alyssa and Holden struggle to maintain their relationship. I won't ruin the ending for you because that would be unfair. Of course, if you're like me and don't like the movie - you won't really care how it ends; you only be happy that it did end.

Characters:

There aren't many redeemable qualities in this movie. And the characters don't really help its case. I hated, absolutely hated Holden, Banky, and sometimes Alyssa. They were all so immature and intolerable. Their actions were inane and at times completely selfish. The only things that make the characters tolerable, the movie for that matter, are the monologues that the characters go into every now and then. These monologues were quite deep and full of emotion. Sure, this would then be followed by something nonsensical but at least for those few moments, Chasing Amy had my attention.

Pros

I must say, the acting in the movie isn't that bad. The characters were believable and there was a certain chemistry between all the characters.

Cons

So, why do I detest this film. The plot was terrible. I much rather prefer the summary than the actual movie. Because past the main points I mentioned, there isn't much else to the film. That's an issue. It's difficult to get through the movie, because nothing really seems to be happening. It progresses further into nonsense and it progresses with some annoying immature characters. I don't want to go on their journey to discovery. No thanks. Do I blame the plot being terrible on the script? Only partially. The directing was the what completely ruined the film. Then again, it's a stoner film - so we're not going for quality here folks. But still, I didn't think that I'd be throwing a couple hours out the window with nothing to show for it but a blog post and a bucket full of angry.

All in all

If you like this type of genre, you'll like this movie. If you really can't stand this types of film - then avoid Chasing Amy. It will hurt you to do otherwise.

#38 - Gray Matters

Why have I not heard anything about this movie before? Grey Matters is one of the cuter, quirkier films I've seen in a while. Although it's a low budget, silly romantic comedy it does have moments that reach beyond the usual emotional complexity of romantic comedies and for the most part - it's pretty touching.

So what's this movie about? Well, it stars Heather Graham and Tom Cavanagh as Gray and Sam Baldwin - siblings who are basically inseparable. They live together, dance together, and are often mistaken for a couple rather than siblings. Yea, their relationship is borderline creepy, but I guess that's what happens when you're both alone in the city with no hopes for a relationship right?

So anyway, the duo decide that they need to stop their incestuous ways and make a pact to look for possible partners for each other - a guy for her, and a girl for him. Let's fast forward to the point where they meet this fantastic girl that completely changes both of their lives. The rest of the movie is mostly about Gray's budding sexuality and how everyone else reacts and responds to her.

The good:

Like I said, there were a lot of touching monologues in the movie that definitely left you thinking. All of them revolved around Gray's coming out and I felt like some touched a lot of feelings that people do have when they realize that they are gay, I know I resonated with what she was saying.

Apart from the fun script and amusing acting, there are a lot of elements that make it a cute movie, and one that is a positive lesbian movie. You see Gray's awkward and seamless transition from in the closet woman to a much more confident lesbian. It's nice to see a movie like that. I also liked that, although the movie was a romantic comedy, it doesn't necessarily have you're cookie cutter ending. It does throw in some interesting twists. The movie as a whole is a bit absurd, but it does have some elements of real life. I also liked the supporting characters in the movie. They were all super supportive and super silly. They weren't just one dimensional characters either - which is great. Even though you don't see much of them, they add to the film in their own special way.

The annoying:

Now, don't get me wrong. I was annoyed by the characters a few times. Some were a bit too awkward and Gray was a bit too self-absorbed. Really, the entire movie played out like a really long episode of Will and Grace. Only in this they are siblings, and Grace is a lesbian and Will is straight. So at times, the characters are a bit too much and can get annoying, but all in all - they grow on you.

All in all

Like I said, I really don't understand why I haven't heard of this movie before. I think it's really under-appreciated, and that really shouldn't be the case. It's a good movie. Not great, but good. Sure at times it does get annoying. But overall the flaws are made up for with the story line.

It leaves you feeling great and the way that it treats the coming out experience is pretty awesome. Its funny, warm, and touching.

Movies that deal with coming out as one of the big themes of the events usually have to find a balance between being cliche and being good. Often times, they fail. Not this movie. This movie is on point.

#101 - When Night is Falling

I've had a lot of difficultly writing this review. I'm not exactly sure if this movie falls into the positive lesbian movie list. Granted, it didn't end badly, and it had a happy ending- but it did have a slightly melancholic tone throughout the entire movie. You do find yourself falling for the relationship between the two characters, even if you do question the motivation behind their actions, and the integrity of the relationship.

Regardless of that, however, I did like this film. And I really liked some of the elements it used. It definitely touched on a number of topic that are rarely touched upon in movies. One of them is the concept of religion. With the exception of The Secrets, I haven't really run inot a movie where religion, Christianity to be exact, shapes the setting, actions, and the story of movie. Christianity to be exact. The main characters, Camille Baker, is a theology professor at an extremely conservative Christian college. Through mid-fortune and chance, Camille meets Petra, a free spirited traveling circus performer. They fall for each other, and Camille has to hide her relationship, not only from her employers but also her boyfriend, I mean, fiance.

Symbolism

I guess a part of the reason that the element of Christianity resonated with me in this film was because of the insane amount of symbolism in the film. There are a lot of elements here that bring about this idea of rebirth, renewal, and sexual awakening. Sometimes, I felt like it they were too forced, but all in all - they did their purpose. I especially liked the symbols of renewal and sexual awakening. The death of your white dog, which later comes back to life? Come on.

If you're going to watch this movie, look out for the symbols and make up your own mind on their effectiveness.

Relationship

You know, I'm not too sure about how I feel about Camille and Petra's relationship. If this was real life, I wouldn't this relationship would last. At times I felt like Camille didn't really love Petra, but more used her as her "first time" "coming out of the closet" relationship. At the same time, I'm not too sure that Petra was really that invested in Camille either. Did they love each other? Sure. They did enough to prove that much was true. But, are they going to run off and live with the circus forever? Ehh. The women are too different from each other for it to ever last. But, for the purpose of the film - let's say that it does last! Because, come on - it's nice to think that the characters stop existing when the film ends...right?

Regardless of this however, I still liked their relationship. It was nice to see a movie that didn't idealize the relationship, or make it seem like it had insurmountable problems. It almost felt like this was a couple that wouldn't really last, but also wouldn't end badly. The relationship would just end when it came to a natural stop.

This movie isn't particularly memorable, but it's not bad, it's just not great either. I feel like the tone of the film makes it difficult to actually like it too much since it is dark and frustrating at times. At the end of the day, I say - go for it. It will give you somethings to think about, or analyze, in the film.

#23- D.E.B.S.

D.E.B.S. is one of those movies that despite the poor acting, somewhat unrealistic plot, and low production costs can still be called a wonderful, campy, feel good movie - with gorgeous main characters, dressed in all girls uniforms.

I wish I could do this movie justice, but somehow I feel the summary from the DEBS website would do a better job:

"Recruited by the U.S. government for their unique ability to lie, cheat and fight, Amy, Max, Janet and Dominique join an underground academy of secret agents known only as D.E.B.S. These crime fighting hotties set out to save the world and keep their lipstick perfectly applied while doing so. Now the girls must combine their skills for their most important mission- to capture vexing vixen Lucy Diamond, the deadliest criminal the world has ever known. When D.E.B.S. star player, Amy, falls for Lucy, chaos erupts and the D.E.B.S. loyalty is put to the test."

Awesome, yes? If that's not enough to reason to watch the movie. Perhaps I should go into further detail on how adorable the relationship between Lucy Diamond and Amy is. The chemistry is incredible, and the whole strong, hot lesbian villain seducing the confused school girl is pretty hot.

As for the rest of the characters, they really add to the rest of the movie. All of the colorful characters are amusing and just a smidge unrealistic, which makes their actions even funnier. From the "snap snap" black girl to the cool and a times haughty french girl, the movie is chock full of harmless stereotypes that will have you laughing.

While it is a bit unrealistic at times, its heartwarming and leaves you feeling good. But, its not all romance - the action side also leads to some blood pumping good times. There are some decent fighting scenes, and the low budget action only makes the movie even better.

Without fail, you'll have a good time watching this movie. Its a pleasant movie experience and really, how wrong can you go with Jordana Brewster?

#45 - Imagine Me and You

Ohh, Imagine Me and You. What to say about this movie? Well, I should start off by saying that this is neither the first time that I've seen this movie, nor would I think that this is it the first time that you readers have heard of this movie. It's on those movies that is usually mentioned as one of the better known, queer films,. Then again, it has Piper Perabo (Lost and Delirious) in it, so how could it not be mentioned?!

I'll start off by saying, that it's not one of my favorite movies. Time and time again, I fail to see why lesbians love this movie to pieces. I won't lie - it is a good movie, and it is heartwarming, but it's not memorable. You don't fall in love with any of the characters, you may feel for them, but honestly, this movie just feels like it tries too hard to be a good romantic comedy.

Summary:

Rachel is getting married to Heck. On the day of her wedding, she feels an unexplicable attraction to Luce, the female gay florist. After the wedding, she befriends Luce (invites her to dinner, etc) in the hopes of setting her up with Cooper, Heck's friend. However, sparks fly between the two ladies, and although neither of them do anything about it, you can tell that there is an attraction. The next day, she learns that Luce is gay, and is now even more interested in learning about Luce, and begins to do some "research" on lesbians on her own (cue in the hilarious scene at the movie rental place). From here, there is a lot of events that lead up to the romance between the two ladies. I won't give too much away after this, but it's definitely a journey that quite nice to watch. Although there isn't much of a sexual, physical intimacy between the two characters, you definitely get enough emotional intimacy to make up for the loss.

Relationships:

The relationship between Rachel and Luce is one of the sweeter ones that I've seen. They are adorable from the start, and the two actresses definitely had a lot of chemistry. You see why they fall in love, and every time I watch this movie, I always catch something between them that I missed the last time I saw them.

As for all of the relationships in the movie, they all are pretty realistic - as far as romantic comedies go. There are plenty of one liners between all the characters that are just friggen adorable. You are left touched, and at times also pensive.

Characters that were just too unrealistic:

The characters are charming, and completely fleshed out. You definitely understand their motivations and do feel empathy for their situations. While I don't completely agree with all of their actions, I can see why they are made - and I appreciate them for it. I'm also sure many people find the little girl adorable, I however cannot stand her. But, that's a rant for another day.

I think one of the problems with the movie is that everyone is just too friggen nice. Yes, they may be angry every now and then, but they are all together too forgiving. Heck. Really? Come on, you've just found out that your wife has fallen in love with a women, and thats all the emotion that you show? Come on. To quote Paulie "rage more." Then, let's look at Rachel's mom. You have a problem with your daughter's new attraction, but you seem to get over it within a few hours. That's pretty unrealistic, and just downright stupid on behalf of the writer.

I understand the need for a happy ending, but how about some realism, yea?

If you are in love and are watching this movie - you would definitely enjoy the affection between the characters, and the plot in general. I wouldn't recommend this as one of those movies that are going to be a fan favorite, but for a rainy saturday afternoon, this movie hits the spot. For those of you going through a break up, there is some peace to be reached after watching the movie. It's cleansing in a way.

#68 - Producing Adults

So what better way to break this blogger's rut than by reviewing a Finish queer movie from 2004. There's a better way you say? Lies!

So, what to say about this film? Well, Variety does get it right - it was entertaining, and it was also charming, but it also was dark. It is by no means a happy go lucky movie. The themes are indeed for mature audiences. The viewer grows like the characters, even if you are left pretty much frustrated by all of them.

I guess the best way to describe the film is by saying that it was like it captured a group of people in a particular moment in time. There is not a lot of exposition, but that doesn't mean that it's not hard to figure out what is going on in the film. Near the end, there isn't a lot of wrap up, just a lot of things left unsaid, and not entirely resolved for the future. However, this does not detract from the actual film itself. This in itself does make the movie charming and since there is this humane quality to the film, it also makes it easier to forgive that characters for their transgressions, which believe me - there are plenty.

Summary

The film starts off focusing on the long term relationship between Venla and Antero. She finds out that she is pregnant, but soon after miscarries, which wasn't so accidental. This however, has left Venla wanting a child. Meanwhile, that would be the last thing in Antero's mind, especially since he is focusing on his Olympic dreams. A good portion of the movie is spent with both willing to do whatever it takes to make sure that their desires are achieved. The extremes that both characters are willing to go are pretty comical, but on the hand, when one begins to think of the desperation in both of the, one is left feeling sorry for them.

One such extreme lands Venla receiving help from her co-worker, Satu. Here is where the real romance begins. The two women fall in love with each other and try to prevail despite the baggage that both of them carry.

Like I previously mentioned, the ending of the movie does a provide some kind of resolution, but nothing is completely left closed. The audience is left to assume the fate of the characters, albiet it - it is a happy fate.

Criticism

This was a good movie and I don't really have many negative things to say about it. The acting and cinematography were both really great. A small problem I had with the film was the way that men were treated by the film. For most of the movie, they were portrayed as jackasses or idiots. At the end, most do receive a reprieve, and they are shown as multi-dimensional people, but I feel like the damage had already been done.

All in all however, it was a decent movie and I would look into into it and see what you think of it.

#93 - The Secrets (Ha-Sodot)

Oh yes, I have mentioned The Secrets for so long and I have finally gotten to actually writing about it! Excited? I am. Why? Because I effing love this movie. It's so good... in every possible way. But, before I go and gush about this Israeli 2008 gem, I'll give you a bit of background.

The movie centers around Naomi and Michel and their time in a women's Jewish seminary. In the first part of the film there is a lot of tension and disagrements between these two characters, but of course as all movies go - they eventually become friends and lovers. Their story however, is not the central one. Actually, you don't get to any lesbian loving until maybe 2/3rds of the film has passed, and until then, there really isn't any indication that that's where the movie is headed. Most of the movie centers around the two women helping out Anouk, a French woman searching redemption for her sins.

Part of the reason I love this movie is because it goes into so many different aspects. It's neither a movie about two girls who fall in love, nor is it a movie about redemption. It's a movie that incorporates so many different aspects and you're just left completely awestruck by the quality.

The acting was fantastic, as was the script. The movie may have run for 20 minutes too long, but you know what.... that was 20 extra minutes where I got to see Noemi and Michel. Have I mentioned how incredibly beautiful both leading women are? And their interaction with each other? Wow. They were so friggen adorable that I didn't know if I should go "aww" when thinking about their cuteness, or be jealous that I will never be able to reach that level of aww factor with anyone.

Now, don't get me wrong. This is not a happy film. In fact, the ending will have you confused and wanting to go to Avi Nesher herself and demand a better ending. But, that's part of the movie itself. I won't spoil it, but I will say that it's not your traditional lesbian movie. Neither Michel no Noemi die, but that doesn't mean that either of them, as well as the audience, isn't left heartbroken.

Don't watch this movie after a break-up, or if you're feeling vulnerable, but definitely watch this movie. It's so good, and it will leave you haunted for a while.

#16 - But I'm a Cheerleader

If there's one movie that always leaves me with a smile on my face and a warm feeling in my heart, it's But I'm a Cheerleader. Premiering in 1999, But I'm a Cheerleader is one of the funniest satires I've seen, and being that it was the first lesbian movie I ever saw, it did leave an imprint in the good ol' bag of lesbian nostalgia-dom.

Feelings aside however, But I'm a Cheerleader is a very good romantic comedy. The acting leaves a little to be desired, but it is still pretty entertaining to watch. From the seasoned lesbian/gay man who can laugh at gay jokes to the coming out of the closet person who can kinda begin to see that maybe being gay isn't all that terrible, the sexual innuendoes and the setting full of stereotypes is one that anyone can enjoy.

Plot

The movie is about Megan, a girl-next door, apple pie making, cheerleader who is sent to True Directions, an center that turns gays into ex-gays, after her friends and family conclude that she must be a lesbian. She does have all the signs - a poster of Melissa Ethridge, doesn't eat meat, has a flowery pillow, and doesn't like kissing her boyfriend. While she originally protests being gay, hence the "but I'm a cheerleader!" part, once at True Directions she does come to realize and admit to her true feelings. The rest of the movie centers around her, her romantic interest, and the other kids at the center while they attempt to convert, subvert, or run away from True Directions.

The movie pokes light hearted fun at the idea of conversion therapy, stereotypes, and closed minded adults, all of which adds to the charm of the film.

Characters

All the characters in the film add a special, unique flavor to the movie. While each person does represent one stereotype or another, they are all lovable and you feel for each of the teens in the move. The relationships between the characters are also heartwarming and positive, for the most part. While there are a couple times where I did get annoyed by the protagonist, her actions do remind you that people are flawed and at times ridiculous.

Setting

One of the things that stands out when watching the movie, is the use of color in the setting. Most of the colors related to the gay teens are so bright and vibrant, which stands in stark contrast to the background and attire of the parents in the film, and the world outside of True Directions. This sharp contrast brings a tone of surrealism to the film that make the events in the movie that much more believable to the audience.

But I'm a Cheerleader is definitely a positive lesbian movie for a person of any age, particularly teens. It is funny, heartwarming, and charming. Unlike many of the other films that end in tragedy or disgrace, this movie ends with a sense of hope for the future.

#70 - Red Doors

In the same way that The Incredibly True of Adventures of Two Girls in Love wasn't a lesbian movie, or a teen movie, Red Doors wasn't a lesbian movie, or a movie about a Chinese family. Instead, it was a dramedy about a dysfunctional family trying to survive.

Red Doors, directed by Georgia Lee, is movie that follows the lives of three Chinese daughters and their parents in the United States. It's evident that all three daughters were raised in the US and have assimilated into the Western Culture. The youngest, Kat, is part of a hip hop dance group, the eldest is engaged to a white man and has been planning a wedding that does not include many, if any, of the Chinese traditions, much to her mother's chagrin.

In case you're wondering, the middle child is the one in the lesbian relationship. In fact, I spent a good portion of the beginning of the movie wondering who was the one who would eventually come out. Honestly, that relationship was not given a lot of attention in the movie, but then again, none of the characters and their stories were given much attention. While a little under developed, I somehow still felt like I had seen enough about each person. It almost felt like most of the action and thoughts happened off camera, and what was shown was the result of those actions.

However, this does not take away from the movie. Red Doors was a quirky film about quirky characters. It's a sweet film about family. Although they all had their own lives, although none of them seemed really connected to each other, at the end of the day they came together. And although the movie is full of jokes and one liners, it also has a serious undertone. The themes they deal with aren't all funny. However, it does appeal to those with a darker sense of humor.

There is one bone I do have to pick with Lee. Julie's sexuality was a bit too ambiguous. I would have liked to have seen some type of lesbian revelation, or or scene where she admits to same sex attractions or something. I'm not asking for a coming out scene, but some type of scene where you learn a little bit about the character. Her sister's had a couple scenes where you got to see the past, thoughts, experiences of the characters, but you never got that for Julie. Let's just chalk it up to middle child syndrome.

However, I still really liked this film. Everyone was amusing and the plot, while a bit zanny was pretty good. If you're looking for another movie about a Chinese family, after watching Saving Face, definitely look into this one.

#88 - The Incredibly True Adventures of Two Girls in Love

Since his passing, I've had John Hughes on my mind a lot. His movies have always had this quality about them that made them memorable and relatable even in the most extreme of cases. He got you laughing, but also thinking.

I bring him up now because thats the exact same feeling I had after watching The Incredibly True Adventures of Two Girls in Love (try saying that 5 times fast). This movie is right up there with The Breakfast Club, Sixteen Candles, and Ferris Bueller's Day Off. In the best of times and worst of times in the movie, there was this undertone that served as a reminder that these kids were still in high school and had all to face all the things that go along with that.

Plot/Setting

This movie wasn't a lesbian movie, and it wasn't a teen movie, it was just a movie about two teens and their first love, and the wild things that result from it. That's enough of a summary for you. I will also add that I loved the way that the director treated the characters lives outside from each other, and their relationship. From the note passing near the lockers, the awkward hand holding, and the strict parents that no longer understood, and the oblivious, often hurtful "friends" - everything was so iconically high school that it was perfect.

Characters

I loved all the characters in the movie. The main character Randy is this butch lesbian who is self conscious, vulnerable, but also very strong. She stands firm even in the worst of cases and has a good heart.

I wish I had seen more of her leading lady, Evie. Evie is a little bit sheltered, very sweet and smart, affluent African American. She starts the movie as a straight girl and as the movie progresses, so does she. The reason I wish I could have seen more of her is because she had to deal with many things at once in high school. Not only was she trying to figure out her sexuality, but it was also obvious that she was always very aware of her race, and interracial relationships. She talks about her mother's disapproval of her father's new white wife, and asks Randy if her aunt (Randy does not live with her mother) does not like her because she is black. Clearly, Evie was dealing with many pressures from many sides and I would have really liked to have seen a little bit more from her perspective.

The more minor characters were equally as rich in character development and equally as entertaining to watch. You got to see a little bit of everyone and it was really great how it all came together at the end. I especially loved Randy's best friend, Frank, the gay Hispanic male in the movie.

After watching It's in the Water, and having decided that I would not be including that in the newly updated version of the Amazon positive lesbian movie, I was looking for a movie to replace that film. This is certainly it. You cannot really go wrong with this movie. It's funny, its decent, its leaves you smiling at the end. While the ending does not really provide much of a resolution, it does provide enough for the viewer to know that everything will be alright. The dedication at the end of the movie, showed that too.

#51 - Lost and Delirious

"Like the lost boys from Peter Pan... except we're the Lost Girls.... Lost and Delirious." - Tori

I'm sure most of you gay kids out there recognize this quote. And if you haven't...you should look into it. That's right. I've gotten to the mecca of lesbian movies. Lost and Delirious. You might be hard pressed to find a lesbian out there who hasn't heard of this movie, watched this movie, hates this movie, loves it, or came out or at least felt more comfortable in their skin because of this movie.

I'm probably all those things in one. I'm reviewing this movie, not after a first viewing. On the contrary, I'm pretty sure I've seen this movie quite a few times. And after every viewing, I'm never really sure how to feel. I have my issues with this film, but at the end of the day, I feel it does what it set itself out to do. Be an angsty, teen, movie for lesbians.

I do like this movie, for a number of reasons (and no... one of them isn't because its an all girl's school!). I like the characters, they aren't very real, but not much of this movie is very realistic. Granted, the plot is very much grounded in reality, but it's not very real. It takes itself too seriously sometimes, and makes it more "emo" and introverted than it should be. It depicts the characters as these intense girls who are ruled by their emotions and are at times melodramatic. On second thought... that is exactly what all girls schools are like.... And because of these factors, there is a surrealism to this entire film that if you aren't really paying attention, you sort of don't really catch. Instead, you might see it as it just being a bad film, or a good one. Honestly, it's a little bit of both.

Reasons why it is good:

1. The acting isn't that bad. All the characters are pretty fresh faces and for a teen flick, it's really not that bad. It's not great. No one should be getting Oscars, but no one should be getting Razzies either. Piper Perabo's Paulie is one of the best things in this movie. Her emotions are clear on her face and the audience can definitely feel it. You're touched by her pain and wish Tori wasn't so cold.

2. The plot is fair. I know people have problems with it, but honestly, it's an emo teen movie. If these elements weren't in it, I'd be concerned.

3. The setting is somewhat realistic. It would have been nice to have seen that there were more than two teachers, but the dynamics between all the girls was pretty nice and nostalgic to see at times.

4. They are all fairly attractive. If all else fails, just watch their faces.

5. Tori was heartbreaking at best, infuriating at worst. Sometimes it was hard to watch the movie simply because you had to see what else she was going to do.

Reasons why it's bad:

1. If you are a person who is huge on good acting, well you might be a tad annoyed by this movie.

2. Certain parts of the story were unnecessary. Really? Why was there a bird?

3. Paulie's downward spiral was a bit overdone. I could have gone without the warped screen, Shakespearian quotes, and duel.

4. Tori was heartbreaking at best, infuriating at worst. Sometimes it was hard to watch the movie simply because you had to see what else she was going to do.

At the end of the day. I say, watch it. It's not that bad. If you have some time, go for it. If you are in the process of coming out and want to see some lesbian movies, see it. If you want a good laugh, watch it too. This movie appeals from the cynics to the idealists. This movie did a lot for when it came out, and should be respected as such. No matter what, this is definitely a must see movie for lesbians.

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#75 - Saving Face

As I'm sure many of you have noticed (yes, I used many for our small following), I really like Saving Face. I've referenced it a lot, and figured it was high time I give a more detailed review on Alice Wu's film, since it is a part of the 101's and the positive lesbian list.

Saving Face had been the best lesbian movie, in general that I had ever seen. And in the chick flick category, there was none other. The relationships were real, the story was entertaining, and the dialogue was fantastic. Then, I watched some more recent films (*ahem* I Can't Think Straight), and I began to look at Saving Face more critically to see why it did not matched up.

To say the least, the relationships were well handled and realistic. While there were some culture clashes (i.e. the father's idea that his reputation should be what most mattered, etc), for the most part I could relate to the characters (maybe you can chalk that up to my traditional, hispanic upbringing). I loved the relationship between Will and Vivian, and Will's relationship with her mom was also endearing to watch.

There were also some really awesome scenes between the characters that still totally crack me up and having me cringing with embarrassment for Will. Needless to say, this movie will make you laugh.

The chemistry between the two characters is also fantastic to watch. Their intimacy and scenes where they finally do the deed is always sensual and gratifying, no matter how many times you watch it.

So...the plot is great, the script is great, the acting is awesome. Why does it not match up? Part of the reason is that the ending is a bit too... rosey colored window. Everyone learns something, everyone is accepted, and everyone lives happily ever after. Sure, most chick flicks end this way, but this one ends this way after having gone through a couple twists that were a bit too surprising and a bit too unexpected. If you like a chick flick to have those elements, then you are totally in the zone, and you will love this movie. If you enjoy staying grounded in reality at all times, you will still love this movie, but find it a bit too much, even a bit campy at a couple times.

However, regardless of its flaws, Saving Face is one of the best lesbian movies out there. Given the fact that there were pretty crappy things before it, its a work of art. Everything works - the chemistry, the acting, the story. Its fantastic. Watch this alone, with a friend, with a lover.... no matter what, you'll leave smiling.

#95 - The World Unseen

Can I just start by saying that I think I love Shamim Sarif? Okay? Alright, I'll say it. I think I love her talent. She is an awesome director. I also love Lisa Ray and Sheetal Sheth.

I just finished watching The World Unseen and I was very impressed by the overall movie and, once again the two gorgeous actresses. Unlike Sarif's later movie, I Can't Think Straight, this movie is by no means a comedy, in fact, calling it that could not be further from the truth. At times, the movie was gut wrenching and very difficult to watch. The debut of the two actresses was phenomenal. Like in their later film, the chemistry between Lisa Ray and Sheetal Sheth is undeniable, and their ability to play a range of emotions makes their movies fantastic.

Like I said, the movie is often times very difficult to watch. It takes place in South Africa during the apartheid, where racism and machistmo reign supreme. The main character, Amina, is a free spirit who owns a cafe (which for a woman to do that during this time is pretty impressive). Amina defies gender norms and while not out of the closet, people in the town do talk. She falls in love with Miriam, a housewife who has 3 children, a conservative husband, and just a woman who never really thought she had any options, or the right to think.

The progression of their relationship is well paced and while nothing is really resolved at the end of the film, you are left at peace with the characters. These two women develop wonderfully into stronger women after their experiences, and it was great to once again watch their relationship blossom.

Another topic that is touched upon in this movie is racism. Then again, if you are having a movie take place during apartheid, you are bound to touch on this subject. The relationship between Amina's black friend and the white woman he feel in love with was touching, and heartbreaking to watch. The racism he, along with some of the darker skinned characters faced was both infuriating and terrible to watch. You really felt for all the characters in this movie.

I strongly recommend this movie to anyone who wishes to see it. It's not just a lesbian movie, and it's not just a movie about race. It's a movie about the human condition.

I have loved the two movies directed by Sarif, and I can't wait to see what else she'll come out with.

#57 - Mango Kiss

After having watched Mango Kiss, I can now almost completely understand why there are some people out there who can't stand watching But I'm a Cheerleader. Both have this surreal quality to it - from the way the characters dress, the color of the scenery, and the plot itself. I compare this movie to But I'm a Cheerleader because that is what it reminded me of... except that the characters weren't teenagers, but instead butch kinky women. So basically, But I'm a Cheerleader... rated R.

As such, I'm left with a lot of questions that could be used for both movies. Where the hell is this supposed to take place? Why is everyone so absurd? Why did I spend time watching this? (at least, for BIAC, these questions were made with a positive undertone). During brief periods while watching this, I even found myself thinking... I need a break, this is too much for me.

So let's get down to the nitty gritty, shall we?

Characters:

Whether the director thought it important or not to mention, it was the one thing that I kept going back to when asking myself "why is everyone so absurd?" The narrator starts off the movie by mentioning that they had recently graduated college, and with that background the one thing that I could think of was...ooh! they are too baked to be a part of reality just yet.

Yes, that is the way these characters acted. In particular, Sassafrass. Yes. That is her name. Either this girl was oblivious to the world around her, brain fried to know she was in one, or making pretend. Her actions angered me and her voice made me want to just put the movie on mute and turn on closed captioning.

Lou was a little bit more tolerable, although she was still a little bit too much of a punk for my tastes.

The rest of the characters were over-the-top, and depicted as amazingly extreme lesbians who are either femme, butch or just completely out there. My favorite characters were their neighbors who were depicted as the femme and stone butch who basically live like a husband and wife. But their satire could not make up for the rest of this movie. Now, I know, I know, the movie is not supposed to be taken seriously, its a comedy, but.... I can't help but be too amazed that this terrible movie was actually made into a movie.

Plot/Setting

The movie is about these two girls who originally started off as best friends, became something more, explored non-monogamy, entered the world of S&M and started to fall apart when they realized that they were in over their heads and had no idea what to do about it.

I go back the question I posed before... where the hell is supposed to take place? Supposedly they live in San Francisco, but I feel like a place like this can't exist. And if it does, I'd rather not go there. It's not because of the themes, but because the characters were just too... intolerable.

Pros

There were none. No, totally joking. The acting wasn't that bad. The actors did a good at job at playing their roles. Either that or they were completely baked while playing their parts.

I remember Telemachus Two mentioning that there aren't that many movies with butches that she's seen. Well, here everyone is. So if you are just looking for a movie with butch characters, this is it. Do you want one that has that and is of good quality? Keep looking.

So now that I've finished giving in my two cents, I should add that I'm sure there are many lesbians out there who would love this movie. In the same way that there are those who hate But I'm a Cheerleader, and those that love it, I'm sure this movie has split viewer-ship. You are just reading the side that would rather not have seen that movie at all.

#44 - It's in the Water

Hmm....

I just finished watching It's in the Water, and before I say anything else about the movie, I think I must note that is indeed a generation and culture gap between me and this movie. It's in the Water premiered in 1997 and is about a rich southern town and a rich socialite, who contradicts everything that can ever be attached to that word, and who has bigger dreams and values than is considered proper in her home, her town, her life.

I think for it's time, It's in the Water was pretty good, and pretty groundbreaking. The 90's didn't exactly have a plethora of movies to base itself on, so the director did what she could with what she had. But alright, anyway, back to the actual movie.

It's in the Water was pretty amusing, there were a couple times I chuckled, but all in all, I found it chock full of stereotypes and all together rushed. There was a lot of things happening, but nothing was every really fleshed out. I feel like subjects were danced around for too long, and when they finally got to the action/conflict, most of the movie was already over. Too much time was spent setting up the setting, the time, the culture. And not enough on the heart of the movie.

Most of the movie, as I took it, is a satire on the "society" life, like the expectations and gossip that spreads like wildfire. And I appreciated the jokes, but I felt like it was just too much at once. The director did a good job at showing the bigotry and homophobia, but at the same time, I think she just drove the point in too hard. I mean, come on? HIV Clinic, water scare, etc. It was just too much.

I did not find the movie funny, instead I found myself more angry than anything else. The reason that I say this is because I don't think it should be a part of the positive lesbian movies list! Just because the ending was okay, and the main characters survived, it doesn't make it a good ending, or a happy film. In fact, you are just sort of left with this feeling that these characters are just going to have to live in this world with the judgments and everything else. No one learned anything. Hell, with so many people coming out as queer, it's no wonder that people thought there was something in the water. I don't know. I just wasn't impressed. The ending made it seem like the queer group were nothing but rebels with a cause.

Like I said, for it's time, it was a positive lesbian movie. No one died, no one went back in the closet, and the world did not end. But now... now this generation will not see it in the same way. It doesn't do the same thing that the newer movies do. It wasn't a comedy, not by today's terms. However, it did help in getting us to where we are now. Thanks for that.

101 Must See Movies for Lesbians

I was on afterellen again and ran into a blog post talking about 101 movies for lesbians to see. A few people responded, and gave their recommendations. However, a list wasn't actually made. So I compiled their recommendations and my own and made a list. Here is is! 101 Must See movies for Lesbians or Gay Women:

1. A Family Affair

2. A Girl Thing

3. A Village Affair

4. A Walk on the Wild Side

5. Aimee and Jaguar

6. All Over Me

7. Amour de Femme

8. Antonia's Line (Antonia)

9. Bar Girls

10. Better than Chocolate

11. Between Two Women

12. Blue Gate Crossing

13. Bound

14. Boys Don't Cry

15. Boys on the Side

16. But I'm a Cheerleader

17. Chasing Amy

18. Chinese Botanist's Daughters (Les Files du Botaniste)

19. Chutney Popcorn

20. Clair on the Moon

21. Clara's Summer (Clara cet ete la)

22. Daphne

23. D.E.B.S.

24. Desert Hearts

25. Eulogy

26. Everything Relative

27. Fried Green Tomatoes

28. FoxFire

29. Fire

30. Fingersmith

31. French Twist

32. Fucking Amal (Show me love)

33. Gia

34. Girlplay

35. Ghosted

36. Go Fish

37. Goldfish Memory

38. Gray Matters

39. Gypo

40. Heavenly Creatures

41. High Art

42. I Can't Think Straight

43. If these walls could talk 2

44. It's in the Water

45. Imagine me and you

46. Intentions

47. Itty Bitty Titty Committe

48. Julie Johnson

49. Kissing Jessica Stein

50. Lianna

51. Lost and Delirious

52. Love and Suicide

53. Love on the Side

54. Loving Annabelle

55. Madchen in Uniform

56. Maggie and Annie

57. Mango Kiss

58. Monster

59. Mullholand Drive

60. My Mother Likes Women

61. My summer of love

62. Nina's Heavenly Delights

63. Out at the Wedding

64. Pariah***

65. Personal Best

66. Portrait of a Marriage

67. Prey for Rock 'n' Roll

68. Producing Adults

69. Puccini for beginners

70. Red Doors

71. Rescuing Desire

72. Rome and Juliet

73. Running on empty dreams

74. Salmon Berries

75. Face Saving

76. She hate me

77. She Likes Girls

78. Some Prefer Cake

79. Song Catcher

80. Sonja

81. Spider Lilies

82. The Celluloid Closet

83. The Children's Hour

84. The Fox

85. The Girl

86. The Gymnast

87. The Hunger

88. The Incredibly True Adventure of Two Girls in Love

89. The Journey

90. The Kiss

91. The Laramie Project

92. The Page Turner (La Tourneuse de Pages)

93. The Secrets

94. The Truth about Jane

95. The World Unseen

96. Treading Water

97. TIpping The Velvet

98. Unveiled

99. Vivere

100. Water Lilies

101. When Night is Falling

Edit: Since it is not a movie, I did not put it on the list, but I have gotten recommendations for Last Friends. It's a Japanese drama.